If you have discovered an emotional or physical affair, it can be devastating. You may be deeply confused by clues and denials. Or you may be woundering if your partner has told you everything.  Either way, you are not alone and your experience is valid. Some therapists will blame the marriage, or worse, you for the affair. This is not true. You are never to blame for your partner’s choices. Whether you are considering leaving the relationship, or are sure you need to repair, we will honour where you are at, so you can begin to feel more understood. If you are the Betrayer, you may feel ashamed, confused, or like nothing you do is ever enough. You may have concerns from long before the infidelity happened, and now feel like your needs can never be understood. Neither of you know where to turn. This feels overwhelming, but it follows a pattern we can work with.

I use the Gottman Method Trust Revival method: Atonement, Attunement, and Attachment. A structured approach to stabilizing what's happened, understanding it clearly, and rebuilding trust so that you're relationship can be redefined in a way that works. The first step is getting clear and steady again. We move through this step by step, at a pace that feels manageable for both of you. This gives us a clear path forward, even when things feel uncertain.